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Rialda Sebek

Existential Psychotherapist

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Type of client

  • Companies
  • Couples
  • Families
  • Groups
  • Individuals
  • Private healthcare referrals

Languages

  • English

Methods of practice

  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Online Therapy

London, Greater London, NW6

Wheelchair access

No

My primary task is to listen to you very carefully, to hear your needs and offer a working therapeutic relationship that will serve you to engage with and process your emotional responses and increase your capacity for self reflection. My role is to engage with you in a dialogue while at the same time being observant of the dynamics of therapeutic relationship and how the unconscious phenomena manifest themselves in that context. I appreciate that taking the first step can be disconcerting. That is why I consider it important to stress that the least you can expect is a non judgmental approach, strict confidentiality and opportunity to talk in a safe environment.
During therapy, complex emotions can be stirred but they need to be available for exploration. Therapeutic work tends to open up a whole reservoir of feelings, thoughts and urges that may be outside of your conscious awareness but actively informing your relational patterns, sense of self and the way of life.
The same blocks that hold you back from living a creative life, feeling content with yourself and developing good relationships, will emerge in therapeutic relationship. In therapy we shall explore what they are and how they came into being influencing your life beyond your awareness. Psychotherapy involves a time commitment and a willingness to explore the issues of concern in order to get a greater insight into your psychic reality and the way you relate. While this kind of work may sound quite demanding it is potentially very rewarding and its thoroughness could bring longer term benefits.
The therapeutic services I offer are tailored to the needs of the individual patient. We shall proceed at a pace and rhythm suitable to your particular circumstances and ability to process the work undertaken. As a general guide you can expect a minimum of once a week therapy. If we come to a mutual agreement to start psychotherapy then we shall work out the schedule of meetings and consultation fees.

Areas:

Issues addressed:

Anxiety
Depression
Trauma and PTSD
Post natal depression
Bereavement
Divorce
Problems following difficult early life experiences
Obsessive-compulsive disorder
Difficulties in maintaining relationships, repetitive interpersonal difficulties, chaotic – self distructive lifestyles
Personality disorders and mood disorders ( BPD and, BDD and BD)

Qualification and Training:

M.A. Psychoanalysis – Tavistock and Portman NHS Trust
Foundation and Post foundation Courses in Psychoanalysis – Institute of Psychoanalysis
M.A. Existential and Phenomenological Therapy – Sheffield University
M.A. Comparative Literature – University of Belgrade
Extensive clinical experience in charity sector, private practice and NHS.
Apart from my private practice I see patients in long term psychoanalytic psychotherapy at Maudsley Hospital and Central and North West London NHS Trust
I am trained in two different modalities – Psychoanalytic and Existential. I use them both in a way that they compliment each other and support developmental process in therapeutic relationship.

SKYPE therapy and how it works
The first point of contact for many clients these days is by means of the therapist’s own website or the website of their professional organisation.

When you find a therapist by means of his or her on-line presence, the process is twofold: on one hand you are engaged with what you perceive. On the other hand, you project your own ideas into that space, making sense out of it.

Your impressions, gut feelings and emotional and mental reactions enable you to intuit to a certain degree whether or not you wish to initiate contact.

There are two parallel streams in this process: conscious and unconscious. The unconscious process is, to my mind, the more important one in choosing your therapist. However, it is, by definition, beyond your awareness. In other words, you may not know exactly why you have chosen to approach one particular therapist over another or why such factors as gender or therapeutic approach played any part in your decisions-making process.

Once you make an appointment, it may be useful to discuss that process with your therapist and associate freely, as much as you can, on what went through your mind while you were interacting with their web space only and without the benefit of his or her physical presence.

Please have a look at my website which contains more information about the way I work, my professional qualifications and experience. If you feel that there is anything on my site that “speaks” to you, then please do send an e- mail to me requesting an initial appointment.

During this preliminary meeting you will get a chance to talk openly about the issues which are concerning you in a confidential and non-judgmental environment and get a feel of what it is like to engage with me. At the end of this session you and I will discuss options for the best way forward for you.

I take the view that no psychotherapist of repute and good standing should every try to “sell herself”. A responsible psychotherapist cannot and should not promote her services by means of claims of their being better than the services of other psychotherapists. To do so would be contrary to the nature of her work and unnecessarily intrusive.

People are all different. Every person seeking psychotherapy needs a chance to find out what may be the most suitable modality or best matching therapeutic style for them. Attempts to influence them would defeat this purpose and rob them of the opportunity to take responsibility for their decisions and to learn from the experience at their own pace.

Talking therapy is not yet another commodity on the market. The commodification of human suffering only discourages people from seeking the help that they think may be the most adequate at any given moment.

The point is to break the vicious circle not to maintain or reinforce it. This can only be done in a proper therapeutic frame and with a professional, ethical attitude.

A client cannot buy a desired change or relief from psychic pain. A therapist cannot provide a magic solution or give advice on how to live life well for a fee.

Psychotherapy is work that starts in therapeutic relationship. It may be the most intimate relationship you can have, but it only works if it is conducted in a very formal setting within strictly defined boundaries.

In your first consultation, the role of the therapist is to offer you the space in which you can talk and explore your options to the best of your ability. By engaging with you and listening carefully, the therapist facilitates the process by which you can make an informed choice on how you want to proceed.

Please note that I can only accept appointments if requested in writing, whether through the Bark.com messaging system or directly to me at – info@rialdasebek.com.

I cannot accept any appointments made on someone else’s behalf. If you think that your partner, parent, child, friend or a relative may benefit from psychotherapy, the best you can do is to support them in making their own enquiries.

Psychotherapy via SKYPE works well for great number of clients and is accepted by professional bodies. Research shows that it may be even be more suitable to today’s nomadic and/ or hectic lifestyles. Some people may find the therapist that is right for them but live too far away. Time is our most precious asset and this is one of the reasons why SKYPE therapy is becoming a more dominant medium for therapeutic work.
Having identified just a few of many advantages of SKYPE, I would not recommend it for people who feel suicidal or for anyone younger than 16.

I strongly suggest that you approach licensed clinicians and check their status with recognised professional bodies. This is especially important for parents seeking help for their children.

The initial consultation is payable in advance and you will get an invoice in a PDF file and confirmation of your appointment upon the receipt of the funds. Once you have placed your request, I will endeavour to respond within 48 hours.

Wishing you the best of luck in your search.

I work with

  • Abuse
  • Addiction
  • Adoption
  • Age-related Issues
  • Anger Management
  • Anorexia
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement
  • Bulimia
  • Bullying
  • Cancer
  • Chronic Illness
  • Cultural Issues
  • Depression
  • Disability
  • Domestic Violence
  • Eating Disorders
  • Employment Difficulties
  • Gender
  • Identity Problems
  • Mental Health Issues
  • Obsessions
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • Parents
  • Phobias
  • Physical Abuse
  • Post-Traumatic Stress
  • Relationships
  • Sex Offenders
  • Sex Problems
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Sexuality
  • Stress
  • Suicide
  • Terminal Illness
  • Transgender
  • Trauma
  • Workplace Counselling

UKCP colleges

  • Universities Training College (UTC)

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London, Greater London, NW6

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