Although coming to therapy is a really brave step, often taken after you have given it a lot of thought, it is still a decision that makes many people feel anxious. What is this person like who I am going to see? Will I get on with them? Feel comfortable talking over my problems with them? This is all understandable: you are meeting a stranger, even if a professional one. It is for this reason that I do not charge for our initial meeting, should you decide not to proceed further with me. If we both feel we can work together, that’s great. But if not, we can discuss other options, and I can help you find another therapist if you would like me to.
How can therapy help you?
You have almost certainly come to therapy because you feel that something is bothering you, is out of kilter, or distorted feels to be too much of a dominant pattern over the years - whether to do with personal relationships, anger, stress, bereavement, depression, sexuality or other issues. You don’t want to feel the way you do: frustrated, exhausted, hopeless, sometimes despairing.
During therapy, while reflecting together, and you hopefully gaining enough trust in me to be as honest as possible, you will begin to understand the causes of your problems. From there, real change can take place. In fact, the ability and confidence to give voice to your feelings is one of the major gains you will make, because feeling ashamed to do so in your personal and even professional life, for all sorts of reasons, is one of the key fears holding us back from making changes in our lives.
Although, like all psychotherapists, I had a specific training, whiich is the backbone of my approach I do not adhere to any one way of working with you.. it all depends on you, the individual, not on any particular theory
Following a legal career, I trained in Attachment Therapy at the John Bowlby Centre, gaining my diploma in 2000, and am now a member of FIP (federation of independent Psychotherapists), where I am Chair. I have an MA from Oxford University.
Although I am a straight man, I have worked with several gay people and continue to do so.
I also have considerable experience with working with couples
I am flexible with working hours, and can work both in the early hours of the morning and in the evening up until 7:30.
While most of my work revolves around relationship issues, issues of low self-esteem and anxiety, I also work with anger management (on which I have published), I also work for large commercial companies for whom I provide critical incident support onsite for employees, where there have been stressful incidents, including death or serious illness of a colleague. or major redundancies