Helping people to heal and grow towards their potential and their freedom is a real privilege. I know from my own long journey, together with witnessing many others, that healing and development are possible, it is our deepest wish.
It is the unbearable hurt, loss, distress or fear (often from childhood) that caused us to become wounded, fearful, closed-down, over or under active, suffering from some combination of anxiety, depression, compulsiveness or relationship difficulties. With this we are trapped in a ‘victim’ place with its complicated defensive structures, where we are constantly trying to maintain the avoidance of what was unbearable. This is the nature of trauma, which I think we all suffer from to some extent, no one can have a perfect upbringing and life.
Our journey towards freedom always has to start with our wish to find a better way of living, this is the start of us taking responsibility for ourselves. Then there is the work of self-awareness and self-understanding. This is where therapy comes in, it supports a new looking and seeing and understanding through both support and challenge. Awareness itself is an enormously powerful change agent because we have within us a deep wisdom that wants to heal and grow, it also knows what is true, and what is not.
Taking responsibility for ourselves always starts with looking, with inquiry, then as we slowly face what was unbearable, as we understand and integrate the split off parts of ourselves, we slowly heal. It is wonderful how we are connected to, and a part of, the underlying creativity of the universe through our head, with its Consciousness, our heart with Love and our bodies through sensation and Energy. With all three parts connected, the whole, which is greater than the sum of the parts, we can increasingly embody our freedom. As Rumi put it, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself you have built against it.”
I work from home here in East Sussex, but especially during Covid restrictions, I am working online and have clients all over.