In my practice of both psychotherapy and supervision I am interested in offering different ways of reflecting on human experience. I understand that 'nature needs nurture,' and that a person's identity can be shaped by decisions made in response to significant relationships throughout life.
Depending on the quality of these influential relationships, particularly in early life, a person's decisions and shaping of identity can become embedded in suffering and negativity. A person can define his or herself by suffering and so might come to get what she unconsciously and negatively expects, no matter how she might consciously wish otherwise.
I value the analysis, or the "loosening of the bonds" of such personal suffering that can occur in with the help of meaningful relationships such as those created with counselors or psychotherapists.
This loosening of bonds through the psychotherapy relationship can help the client to resource his or herself more effectively in daily life. Engaging in a psychotherapy relationship can also enhance the capacity for intimacy, facilitate congruence and openness to learning, and, ultimately, serve to make life more interesting.