About Me

Hi, I’m Sholly.

I’m a UKCP-registered Family and Systemic Psychotherapist with over ten years’ experience in children and young people’s mental health. Alongside my work in the NHS Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS), I work as a family therapist across the lifespan, supporting adults, couples, parents, families, children and young people. I’m based in Hertfordshire and North West London, and offer both in-person and remote therapy sessions via video call.

People come to therapy for many different reasons. You might be experiencing difficulties in your own life or relationships, feeling stuck in patterns that are difficult to change, navigating challenges as a couple, or feeling concerned about your child or young person. You may be looking for support as a family, particularly when communication has become difficult or relationships feel strained. Whatever brings you to therapy, I recognise that reaching out can be a significant step.

My work is grounded in a belief that our experiences cannot be fully understood in isolation from our relationships, families, communities and the wider social contexts in which we live. I’m interested in how our experiences and the stories we develop about ourselves and others shape our emotional wellbeing, and how new perspectives can open up possibilities for change.

Outside of work, I enjoy running, coffee, singing my heart out, long walks in nature and spending time with my family.

My Approach

My approach is rooted in family and systemic psychotherapy. This means looking beyond an individual difficulty to understand the relationships, experiences and wider contexts that may be shaping it. I believe that how we feel and the difficulties we experience often make more sense when we explore what is happening around us, including our relationships with the people who matter to us.

I work with children, adults, couples and families across the lifespan, including parents who are seeking support with their child or young person. Sometimes it can be helpful to explore difficulties individually; at other times, working together with a partner or family members can create opportunities for greater understanding and change. My approach is guided by the circumstances and needs of the people coming to therapy, rather than assuming there is one way of working that suits everyone.

In my work with couples and families, I’m interested in how people experience one another, how communication develops, and how patterns of interaction can become difficult to shift. Therapy can offer an opportunity to explore different perspectives, understand what may be happening beneath the surface of disagreements or tensions, and find new ways of relating to one another.

When working with parents who are concerned about their child or young person, I seek to understand their difficulties within the context of their relationships, family life and wider experiences. This can help create space to think together about what a child or young person may be communicating through their feelings or behaviour, what might be contributing to their distress, and how the family might move forward.

I aim to bring curiosity, compassion and openness to my work, making space for different perspectives without assuming that there is one right way to understand a situation. I’m interested not only in the difficulties people bring to therapy, but also in their strengths, resources and relationships. I believe people are more than the problems they experience, and that meaningful change can emerge when we begin to see ourselves, one another and our circumstances differently.

I also recognise that our experiences are shaped by culture, identity, belonging, power and social inequalities. These influences can affect how we understand ourselves and our relationships, and I aim to approach them with sensitivity and openness.

For me, therapy is a collaborative process. My hope is to offer a space where people feel able to explore their experiences, develop new understandings and consider different possibilities for change, connection and hope.

Types of Therapies Offered

• Family and Systemic Psychotherapist
• Family Therapist
• Systemic Family and Couple Psychotherapist
• Systemic Psychotherapist