My Approach

“Personality is a way of being and behaving in a world that exists for the person who has that personality” — Georges Wollants.

We become who we are through interactions with each other and our world. Our personalities are not ours alone and can be understood as the stories we tell each other about ourselves. There is security in experiencing ourselves as stable. We could not have ongoing relationships without some order to our sense of who we are. Order and chaos are present in every moment, yet we tend to ignore the chaos because it disturbs us.

When things go awry, as they inevitably will and do, we can think something is wrong with us, something that is broken and needs fixing. This wrongness we sense may be expelled and projected elsewhere onto other people, or we can fix it as part of our personality as we try to tame the chaos by inadvertently trapping ourselves and each other in narrow definitions of selfhood. This is particularly true in the realm of intimacy and sexuality, where shame and self-protection can make the wrongness feel especially fixed and especially dangerous to approach.

There is another way.

What if, instead of trying to master the wrongness, we open ourselves up to it? For it is in the giving over to the wrongness, the chaos, and the trauma, which is how change comes about. In my view, it is not about healing trauma and resetting to some perfect time before but about how we can create something new from our suffering.

How do we go about this?

Well, therapy is one such way. To be in a deeply empathetic and boundaried relationship with another who commits to being present with you, someone who is importantly unfamiliar to you, opens up the possibility for you to become unfamiliar with yourself. While this can be an unsettling process, it can be experienced as a profound opening up to new potentialities with the proper support. After all, you are so much more than personality alone permits.

About Me

I am a UKCP-accredited Gestalt psychotherapist and trainee clinical sexologist working with individuals and couples. I hold a Diploma and MA in Gestalt psychotherapy, an integrative approach that combines Western existential philosophy with influences from Eastern Zen traditions to offer a holistic understanding of human development and relationships. I am currently completing a Diploma in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy and am a trainee member of COSRT.

With over a decade in the mental health field and a background in film and theatre, I bring creativity into the therapeutic relationship through metaphor, imagery, fantasy, and dreamwork. My work is grounded in curiosity, collaboration, and the belief that relationships are living, evolving processes rather than fixed problems to solve.

A significant part of my work is with couples and people navigating intimacy and sexuality. I work across the full spectrum of relationship structures and sexual experience, with couples experiencing conflict, communication difficulties, betrayal, life transitions, sexual concerns, or disconnection. I am interested in the patterns couples become caught within and in helping partners develop new ways of understanding themselves and each other.

I have worked alongside organisations supporting marginalised communities, including LGBTQIA+ people with London Friend, people experiencing acute mental health difficulties with Mind in Camden, and people affected by homelessness with Providence Row. Again and again, I have witnessed the relief and transformation that becomes possible when people no longer feel the need to hide parts of themselves.

From an early age I was fascinated by mystery and the unexplainable. I see therapy as a collaborative art form: a space where people can slow down, reflect together, and explore what may previously have felt unspeakable. Whether working with individuals or couples, therapy can become an opportunity to deepen intimacy, navigate difference, and reconsider who we are in relation to ourselves and those we love.

I work with

• Companies
• Couples
• Groups
• Individuals
• Private healthcare referrals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

Types of Therapies Offered

• Gestalt Group Psychotherapist
• Gestalt Psychotherapist

What I can help with

• Abuse
• Addiction
• ADHD
• AIDS/HIV
• Anger Management
• Anxiety
• Autism
• Bereavement
• Bulimia
• Bullying
• Cancer
• Cultural Issues
• Depression
• Disability
• Divorce
• Family
• Gender
• Identity Problems
• Mental Health Issues
• Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
• Parents
• Phobias
• Physical Abuse
• Post-Traumatic Stress
• Race Issues
• Relationships
• Separation
• Sex Problems
• Sexual Abuse
• Sexuality
• Spirituality
• Stress
• Suicide
• Terminal Illness
• Transgender
• Trauma
• Workplace Counselling