My Approach

I work relationally and integratively. Relationships are central to how I understand emotional health, psychological difficulties and change.

If you worry that therapy might mean sitting with someone who nods quietly while you do all the talking, that isn’t how I work. I am not a blank-screen therapist. I take an active and collaborative part in the work: I listen closely, ask questions, offer my thinking and pay attention to what may be difficult to put into words, as well as to what unfolds between us.

My stance is supportive but not uncritical. At times I may question assumptions, draw attention to something that is difficult to look at, or invite you to consider a different perspective. I see this as part of thinking together rather than telling you who you are or what you should do.

My work draws on psychodynamic and attachment theories, neuroscience, trauma theory, embodied approaches and existential thinking. Together, these form a coherent framework for my work rather than a collection of separate techniques.

I also pay attention to the wider social and cultural contexts in which we live. Our difficulties cannot always be understood adequately by looking only at what is happening inside us.

About Me

I’m Dr Malgorzata Milewicz, a Counselling Psychologist and Integrative Psychotherapist. I have been working psychotherapeutically for over 15 years.

I am not a blank-screen therapist. I bring my expertise to the work, but I don’t lead with it. I’m present in the relationship as myself.

Much of my experience is working with adults who function well in many areas of their lives but find relationships, feelings, or the way they feel about themselves more difficult.

You may repeatedly find yourself disappointed, anxious or uncertain in relationships, struggle to move beyond dating, lose yourself once a relationship becomes important, or find closeness difficult when it matters most. Difficult relationships with parents, siblings, friends or other people who matter to you may also bring you to therapy.

Or you may be successful and capable yet very hard on yourself — pushing yourself relentlessly, feeling that you should always be doing better, or feeling inadequate despite what you have achieved.

Some people find feelings unsettling and have learnt that it is safer not to feel too much. Others experience emotional disconnection or numbness. You may understand a great deal about yourself and where your difficulties come from, yet find that understanding alone has not changed how you feel or how you respond.

I also work with the effects of trauma and difficult experiences in childhood or later in life, including the emotional impact of boarding school; loneliness and isolation; grief and significant loss; questions of identity and belonging; and major transitions in life.

Alongside my psychotherapy practice, I teach integrative psychotherapy and provide clinical supervision.

I work with

• Individuals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

Types of Therapies Offered

• Integrative Psychotherapist

What I can help with

• Abuse
• Age-related Issues
• Anxiety
• Bereavement
• Cultural Issues
• Depression
• Divorce
• Family
• Post-Traumatic Stress
• Stress
• Supervision
• Trauma