There are many reasons for wanting to begin counselling or psychotherapy. A recent, or current, crisis is often the prompt. Or, you may feel the time has come to take a closer look at those problems, or patterns of thinking and behaviour, that seem all too familiar to you. Many people find their struggles to be too broad or confusing to place in any particular box, or experience a difficult-to-locate sense of dissatisfaction with their lives.
You needn't be clear about your own reasons. My aim, both initially and throughout, is to help you give voice to, as well as understand more fully, those areas of your life that feel difficult, painful, unfulfilled or stuck. Such understanding can be useful, illuminating and cathartic in its own right, but beyond this, it can also help us make decisions about those things we may wish to change, as well as come to terms with those things that we can't.
My approach to therapy has always been open, non-dogmatic, jargon-free and down-to-earth; in my view, therapy should not be experienced as a 'mysterious' process requiring a special kind of language. It is, at heart, a conversation about living - one that aims to help us struggle or suffer less, whilst also emphasising our possibilities.
Therapy works best when it is collaborative and involved. I am not a 'silent therapist' or passive observer, but neither will I assume, attempt to 'fix' you, or tell you how to live.
Throughout our conversations, I will encourage you to emphasise the present and future, as much as the past. Our histories, of course, are a vital part of who we are. But, even a deep understanding of our past does not automatically tell us how we would like to be living now, or what we may want for our futures - often central questions in therapy.
I made the decision to train to be a psychotherapist because I saw it as a meaningful and compassionate way of understanding and helping others who are stuck, suffering or unsure of how they want to live.
Over 25 years later, I remain fascinated by the human experience, the meaning and value we try to ascribe to our lives, the ways we cope with loss, change, anxiety, confusion and uncertainty - and the endlessly inventive ways we find to protect ourselves (not always helpfully) from the many challenges life can throw at us.
As a psychotherapist and counsellor in private practice, I have many years’ experience of working with a vast array of issues. The way I practice is broadly existential-humanistic, although I do also draw upon other, connected, theoretical approaches, including psychodynamic. I have a special interest in working with questions of purpose and meaning, as well as relationship difficulties and relational dynamics.
My Consulting Room is based in Central London, Farringdon (EC1) and I work with clients both in-person and online.
Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.