Systemic psychotherapy.
Every person, every couple, every family has a story.
Some of those stories are spoken out loud—the ones we tell to explain who we are, what's happened, or how things came to be this way. And some stories are lived quietly, things left unspoken; these things do not just disappear.
Instead, they tend to settle into the spaces between people, shaping how we relate without us realising it.
We might keep circling the same arguments, or focusing on the surface-level issues, while something deeper stays out of reach. It's easy to miss, especially when we are trying to alter it!
You might find that the ways of thinking and communicating that work so well in one part of life don't seem to land the same way at home—with a partner, a child, or a parent. It can be confusing when you're doing your best to approach things clearly, logically, but others respond in ways you didn't expect, and it's hard to understand why.
In systemic psychotherapy, we make space to think about this, uncover those deeper layers—the things that haven't been said yet. Not by finding fault with one person, but by understanding the different perspectives, expectations, and experiences each person brings. Sometimes what looks like resistance or conflict is really a story that hasn't had space to be heard. Change often begins not with finding the perfect words but with noticing what's been missing from the conversation.
Sometimes it's not that we're not talking—it's that we're not talking about the right things.
Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.
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