Ellen Harding Boyle, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8
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Ellen Harding Boyle, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8
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My Approach

I believe that what has happened to a person in the past, and what is happening to or around them in the present, shapes how they think, feel, and behave. So as we work together, I try to understand not just what is troubling you or your child today, but what might be behind it, and what might be helpful going forwards.

Sometimes what someone needs most is simply a space to talk about what’s going on and to have their feelings taken seriously. It can be difficult to work through some life events on your own: we are by nature social beings. That said, it is often hard to share thoughts and feelings, even with the people closest to us, either because of shame, not wanting to worry or burden the people we love, or not having the words things yet. Sometimes our difficulties also come from processes beneath the surface, patterns we aren’t yet aware of, and a safe space can help us begin to notice and understand these.

I work in a way that suits each person. Younger children often express themselves best through play, arts and crafts, sand tray work, or storytelling. Teenagers, young adults, and adults can expect something much more straightforward: a regular weekly time to talk through thoughts and feelings in a safe, confidential space, with no play or props unless you want them.

Whatever the approach, my aim is to help people find new ways to think about and cope with difficult situations, so they can feel hopeful about the future. My experience across schools and the community means I stay mindful of family, school, and wider life outside the room, and where helpful I work alongside parents and carers too.

About Me

Support for you and your family

Life can feel overwhelming when you’re struggling yourself, or when someone you love is. You don’t have to work through it on your own.
I’m a UKCP-accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor, whose core training focused on children, adolescents, and young adults. I also offer coaching and emotional support for adults.

Psychotherapeutic counselling for children and young people

I support children and teenagers who are:
- Feeling angry, or struggling to manage big emotions
- Coping with the loss of someone they love
- Being bullied at school, online, or elsewhere
- Feeling anxious or worried much of the time
- Feeling low and hopeless
- Finding it hard to talk about something frightening that has happened to them
- Feeling alone with what they’re going through, even around family and friends

I also offer consultations for parents and carers in order to better support their young people.

Coaching and emotional support for parents

Parenting is hard, especially when you’re doing much of it alone. I offer a confidential space to think through family difficulties, whether that’s a child going through a hard time, separation, conflict, or change at home. I won’t tell you what to do. I’ll be a steady sounding board while you work out what feels right for you and your family.

Coaching and emotional support for women through and after divorce

Divorce and separation can bring grief, anger, fear, relief, and a shifting sense of who you are. I offer supportive, forward-looking sessions to help you steady yourself, make sense of the changes, and rebuild your life with confidence.

I work with

  • Children and young people
  • Individuals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

Anger is a natural human emotion, and it often shows up in response to other feelings underneath, such as hurt, fear, sadness, or feeling unheard. Rather than focusing only on the anger itself, I help clients explore what is going on for them more widely, and help them identify and practice more healthy ways of coping and expressing their needs.
Many young people today are struggling with different types of anxious feelings - which can impact their ability to function well socially and academically, and create barriers to the things they would like to do. In therapy we can explore the roots of these unpleasant feelings and the way they are felt in the body, and think about the psychological skills and behaviours that we can use to try and get these feelings back under control.
Part of my clinical practice during my training was spent at a hospice, supporting children and young people who had lost a parent, carer, or other close relative. It can be helpful to create a space where a young person can explore their confusing and painful feelings, but often this is difficult to achieve within the family because the client fears causing more pain and anguish to others affected by the same loss. I offer bereavement work with children and young people and work in a way that is age appropriate and gentle.
Sometimes family life itself can create emotional distress for children and young people. Whilst in many situations our families are a place to access support, it can be hard to know who to talk to when the family dynamic itself is part of the issue. Therapy sessions offer clients a space to explore and understand what might be going on at home, in a way that is non-blaming of self and others. I can also work with parents and carers to explore what might be going at a family level, as this is often at the heart of some of the difficult feelings, thoughts and behaviours of our young people.
We often think of trauma as a serious life-threatening event such as a natural disaster or accident. Some unhappy life events can be understood as trauma, such as a close bereavement, neglect or abuse, or family breakdown. Separation or estrangement from a parent may be experienced as a form of ‘relational trauma’. For children and young people, other ‘adverse childhood events' such as the loss of a beloved pet, experiencing bullying, or being rejected by a friend group can cumulatively produce the same physiological and emotional responses in mind and body as something more readily identified as a 'trauma'. It can be helpful for young clients to explore their stories in less direct way, using creative and play based activities to create and explore key images and themes of things that might have created a lot of fear and anxiety - but in a way that feels safe and contained. This 'processing' or working through of emotions and experience can help clients feel heard and understood, and in this way help them understand and be more compassionate to themselves.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Child and Adolescent Psychotherapeutic Counsellor

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Home Visits
  • Online Therapy

Newmarket Office


Newmarket CB8

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Cost:

£70-80

Cambridge Office


Cambridge CB2

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UKCP College

  • Universities Training College (UTC)

Working with Children

For more information about therapy for children and young people, visit our info page.
Ellen Harding Boyle

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8

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