Ellen Harding Boyle, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8
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Ellen Harding Boyle, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8
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My Approach

I believe that what's happened to a child, teen, or young adult — both in the past and what's going on for them right now — shapes how they think, feel, and behave. So as we work together, I try to understand not just what's troubling them today, but what might be behind it, and how we can help.

Sometimes what a young person needs most is simply a space to talk about what's going on and have their feelings taken seriously — something that can be hard to do alone, or even with the people closest to them, whether that's because of shame, not wanting to worry or burden the people they love, or just not having the words for it yet.

In sessions, I use play, arts and crafts, age-appropriate explanations, storytelling, and conversation, helping each young person open up and express themselves within a relationship they can trust.

Childhood and adolescence bring rapid change, and real opportunities for growth. I aim to help my clients find new ways to think about and cope with difficult situations, so they can feel hopeful about their futures. My experience working across schools and the community also means I stay mindful of family, school, and wider life outside the therapy room — and where helpful, I work alongside parents and carers too.

About Me

If your child or teenager is going through a hard time, you don't have to work through this on your own. I support children, young people, and their parents and carers when family members are:
- Feeling angry, or struggling to manage big emotions
- Coping with the loss of someone they love
- Being bullied at school, work, and/or online
- Feeling anxious or worried much of the time
- Feeling low and hopeless
- Going through a difficult time as a family — for example, separation, conflict, or change
- Finding it hard to talk about something frightening that's happened to them
- Feeling alone with what they're going through, even around family and friends

I work with

  • Children and young people
  • Individuals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

I am not a fan of the term "anger management" as I see anger as surface level communication on display when a person is struggling with really difficult feelings underneath. In my work I help clients explore what is really going on for them, and can work with them to find new ways to get in touch with their emotions, and communicate their needs in healthier and more prosocial ways.
Many young people today are struggling with different types of anxious feelings - which can impact their ability to function well socially and academically, and create barriers to the things they would like to do. In therapy we can explore the roots of these unpleasant feelings and the way they are felt in the body, and think about the psychological skills and behaviours that we can use to try and get these feelings back under control.
Part of my clinical practice during my training was spent at a hospice, supporting children and young people who had lost a parent, carer, or other close relative. It can be helpful to create a space where a young person can explore their confusing and painful feelings, but often this is difficult to achieve within the family because the client fears causing more pain and anguish to others affected by the same loss. I offer bereavement work with children and young people and work in a way that is age appropriate and gentle.
Sometimes family life itself can create emotional distress for children and young people. Whilst in many situations our families are a place to access support, it can be hard to know who to talk to when the family dynamic itself is part of the issue. Therapy sessions offer clients a space to explore and understand what might be going on at home, in a way that is non-blaming of self and others. I can also work with parents and carers to explore what might be going at a family level, as this is often at the heart of some of the difficult feelings, thoughts and behaviours of our young people.
We often think of trauma as a serious life-threatening event such as a natural disaster or accident. Some unhappy life events can be understood as trauma, such as a close bereavement, neglect or abuse, or family breakdown. Separation or estrangement from a parent may be experienced as a form of ‘relational trauma’. For children and young people, other ‘adverse childhood events' such as the loss of a beloved pet, experiencing bullying, or being rejected by a friend group can cumulatively produce the same physiological and emotional responses in mind and body as something more readily identified as a 'trauma'. It can be helpful for young clients to explore their stories in less direct way, using creative and play based activities to create and explore key images and themes of things that might have created a lot of fear and anxiety - but in a way that feels safe and contained. This 'processing' or working through of emotions and experience can help clients feel heard and understood, and in this way help them understand and be more compassionate to themselves.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Child and Adolescent Psychotherapeutic Counsellor

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Home Visits
  • Online Therapy

Newmarket Office


Newmarket CB8

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Cost:

£70-80

Cambridge Office


Cambridge CB2

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UKCP College

  • Universities Training College (UTC)

Working with Children

For more information about therapy for children and young people, visit our info page.
Ellen Harding Boyle

Ellen Harding Boyle

Newmarket CB8

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