'When it hurts we return to the banks of certain rivers" - Czeslaw Milosz
As a systemic psychotherapist, my approach fits with the idea that no man is an island; our identities evolve in response to our relationships with others. I can help you to explore the patterns that are causing distress in your life, individually, as a couple, and as a family. We can think about the impact on you of your past and present relationships, as well as what you may be contributing, often unintentionally, to the difficulties in your life.
Patterns may be internal and emotional, such as becoming overwhelmed with anger or sadness; or relational, such as avoiding intimacy or becoming preoccupied by others' needs. I believe that these patterns have developed over many years for good reasons, they are adaptations that try to help us cope with life's circumstances, and should be treated with respect and thoughtfulness. However, together, we can also challenge these patterns of being and relating, and experiment with visiting the banks of other rivers in thought, feeling, and action.
I have experience working with both adults and young people and can offer individual treatment to either age group.
I am a highly specialist systemic and family psychotherapist with 8+ years of experience supporting adults and young people with mental health difficulties in the NHS, and public and third sectors.
I am especially interested in working with people who have had negative experiences of therapy previously and who may have mixed feelings about trying to get help again. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if this resistance is coming from the therapist not being the right fit, from our own internal resistance, or some combination of the two. I offer space to think about this at the outset of any work, as well as exploring candidly if I am the right therapist for you.
I have extensive experience working with trauma, including multiple forms of childhood abuse and neglect, as well as traumas that may be more subtle and difficult to define.
In my practice, I am a flexible therapist, exploring exactly what it is that you need from a therapeutic relationship to realise your hopes and goals for treatment.
I work online and face to face in my consulting room in Sydenham Hill / Dulwich. Please feel free to explore my webiste, www.thedulwichfamilyconsultationservice.com
Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.