Andrew Tobert, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Andrew Tobert

Hackney E1
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Andrew Tobert, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Andrew Tobert

Hackney E1
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My Approach

At first, it might seem quite straightforward. You will mostly talk, and I will mostly listen. I might ask questions, I might share how I'm feeling. This is the experience of being listened to, deeply listened to. You might realise that you have never experienced it before.

Over time, this experience will hopefully create a feeling of safety. Both consciously and beneath consciousness, you will feel safer as our time together goes on.

This allows our work to deepen. You can share more, and together we might begin to understand the person that you are in ways that might surprise you.

About Me

I'm a therapist in Shoreditch, Hackney and I work with people who lose themselves, who cannot show up fully.

Perhaps in relationships, you bite your tongue or withdraw, and struggle to advocate for yourself. You might people-please, and find yourself going out of your way to avoid others' disappointment. You might be so good at this that you don't even recognise that you're doing it.

Or at work, perhaps it's your boss you're trying to keep happy. You cannot say no, or take on too much, sometimes without even being asked. Now, you're stressed,
anxious and burnt out.

Perhaps there is a habit you can't kick. You can hold it together for your job, or the people you love, but when you're alone, or bored, the urges start and you cannot stop.

Or, perhaps there's part of you that cannot show up because you learned to hide it. You might have grown up queer so being who you are, and publicly, was not safe. Or maybe something happened that shouldn't. And you didn't have the words to describe it, or perhaps had no one to listen.

I work with

  • Individuals
  • Private healthcare referrals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

There is a habit you cannot quit. It might be drugs, alcohol, chemsex, porn or something else. You probably can control it at work, or when you're with certain people. But when you're by yourself, bored, the urges start and resistance feels impossible. If something like this sounds like you, I want to hear about it. You don't need to be sober to start therapy. You don't even need to be sober in our sessions. I only ask that you're honest. The rest will come.
You're struggling with your place in the world. There's perhaps a new part of you that it making itself known. Or your wrestling with your relationship to a label that feels increasingly not like you. There are no right or wrong answers here. We're only looking for the truth.
You struggle to show up fully with the people you love. You bite your tongue in arguments or you quietly withdraw. Perhaps you notice yourself moving your life around to avoid upsetting them. Perhaps that used to happen occiaisonally, with the big things, but somewhere along the way, it started to define your life.
If you struggle to say no at work, it can grow and ferment until, before you know it, it has annexed whole swathes of your life. Soon, you're exhuasted, stressed and burnt out. You can listen to more of my thoughts on burnout on my Radio 4 show. https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0026x15
Sometimes the past can stay with us in ways that are not helpful. The things that we want so badly to let go are the one things that we cannot seem to. You've probably tried burying those things, how could you not. Therapy is a space to try something new. Instead, we will explore. We look at it, in the face.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Integrative Psychotherapist

What I can help with

  • Addiction
  • Employment Difficulties
  • Identity Problems
  • Relationships
  • Sexuality
  • Stress
  • Trauma

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Online Therapy

Hackney Office

231 Shoreditch High Street
Hackney E1 6PJ

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Cost:

80.00

Concession:

I occasionally have room for some concessionary slots.

UKCP College

  • Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy College (HIPC)
Andrew Tobert

Andrew Tobert

Hackney E1

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