Alan Sparkes, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Alan Sparkes

BN32BB
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Alan Sparkes, UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist

Alan Sparkes

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My Approach

I work integratively, with the whole person: the story you bring, the different parts of you that want different things, and what happens in the body. My work draws on transactional analysis, parts-based work informed by structural dissociation theory, hypno-psychotherapy in the Ericksonian tradition, and somatic approaches. I adapt to what you need rather than fitting you to a single method. You set the pace, nothing is rushed, and you're always in charge of what we explore.

Alongside talking, I sometimes use eye movement integration, a gentle technique from my hypno-psychotherapy and NLP training that helps the mind process memories that still feel stuck or overwhelming. It is always paced carefully and only used when it feels right for you.

With couples, I help each partner understand what keeps happening between them and what each brings from their own history.
Some people want a focused piece of work over an agreed number of sessions, with a review; others want open-ended therapy to go deeper. We decide together in the first session. Sessions are £80, face to face at Brighton & Hove Therapy Space, Church Road, Hove, or online, with flexible times. I keep a small number of reduced-fee places.

About Me

I work particularly with men who've spent years holding it together, and with women working through early or relational trauma. Most people come to me because of anxiety, depression, or the after-effects of trauma. Often there's something underneath that has been there a long time: a harsh inner voice, a sense of never being quite good enough, relationship patterns that keep repeating, or simply not knowing why you feel the way you do. Many have had therapy before and found that talking alone didn't quite reach it.
I don't do psychic amputation. You can't cut off the parts of yourself you don't like, or that cause you pain, without running into more problems. Therapy can help those parts be understood and integrated, so you can live more fully. I'm not a therapist who just nods and asks how that makes you feel. I'll tell you what I notice, and when it helps, I'll gently challenge you, always with care. I also work with couples caught in the same painful argument, again and again.

I am a UKCP-registered psychotherapist with 20 years in practice, working with individuals and couples in Hove and online. After a BSc in Psychology, I trained for four years in Transactional Analysis psychotherapy at the Metanoia Institute. I later completed a Diploma in Contemporary Psychotherapy at the Beeleaf Institute, integrating hypno-psychotherapy and NLP, and I am an NLP Master Practitioner. Since then I have studied structural dissociation, parts-based and body-based approaches to trauma.

Alongside private practice, I counsel with the Terrence Higgins Trust in Brighton. I have worked at Hackney Bereavement Service, taught psychology undergraduates at Middlesex University, and taught and facilitated groups at the British College of Naturopathy and Osteopathy. I built and ran a multi-room therapy practice in Hove, lead peer discussion groups for practitioners, and founded Brighton Counselling Directory. I am also a member of BACP.

I work with

  • Couples
  • Individuals

Special Interests

Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.

I love working with couples. Many come to me caught in the same painful argument, again and again, or after a betrayal or a change in boundaries. I'm interested in what each partner brings from their own history and how those histories meet. Together we slow the pattern down so you can both see it, and start choose something different. Differences are inevitable, but conflict is optional.
Depression: getting help into the light Do you have a constant feeling of sadness and a loss of interest, which stops you doing your normal activities? We all feel low or down at times, but if your negative emotions last a long time or feel very severe, you may have depression. Depression can happen as a reaction to experiencing something like abuse, bullying or family breakdown, and it can also run in families. Whether it's caused by a reaction to a specific event or a slow erosion of a once happy self it doesn't have to be permanent experience. Wouldn't it be good to get your meaning and motivation for your life back?
Health anxiety can take over your life: checking your body for signs that something is wrong, searching symptoms online, seeking reassurance that never quite lasts, or avoiding doctors altogether. It often grows from the same over-sensitive alarm behind other anxiety, sometimes after an illness, a loss or a frightening experience. I’m especially interested in how stress and old experiences show up in the body, and I work with both mind and body to understand what the worry is trying to protect. I also work with people adjusting to a diagnosis or living with a long-term condition.
Sexual abuse or assault, whether recent or long ago, in childhood or adulthood, can leave a lasting mark: feeling unsafe in your body, numb or far away, or wary in relationships. Many people carry it alone for years, often with shame or self-blame that was never theirs to carry. I work with survivors of any gender, carefully and at your pace. You never have to tell me more than you choose, and you’re always in charge of what we explore. If you’re unsure about working with a male therapist, we can talk about that openly in a first session, with no pressure either way. Where it helps, I draw on body-based approaches and eye movement integration to make difficult memories more manageable.
Trauma is our response to experiences that overwhelmed our ability to cope. It can show up as feeling helpless, as flashbacks or memories that keep replaying, or as disconnecting from yourself and others just to get through. It can come from a single event, from witnessing something, or build up slowly over time, and it can lie dormant for years before something triggers it. My particular interest is trauma that grows out of early relationships, sometimes called developmental or complex trauma (CPTSD). You don't need a diagnosis to work with me. I draw on parts-based and body-based approaches and eye movement integration, using careful, step-by-step methods so that difficult memories can be approached at a pace that feels manageable.

Types of Therapies Offered

  • Hypno -Psychotherapist
  • Outcome Oriented Psychotherapist

What I can help with

  • Abuse
  • Addiction
  • AIDS/HIV
  • Anxiety
  • Bereavement
  • Couple Issues
  • Depression
  • Gender
  • Health-related Issues
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • Parents
  • Phobias
  • Post-Traumatic Stress
  • Relationships
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Trauma

Types of sessions

  • Face to Face - Long Term
  • Face to Face - Short Term
  • Home Visits
  • Online Therapy

Office

Brighton & Hove Therapy Space
85 Church Rd
BN32BB
United Kingdom (UK)

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Cost:

£80

Concession:

I have two concession slots.

UKCP College

  • College of Outcome Oriented and Hypno-Psychotherapies (COOHP)
Alan Sparkes

Alan Sparkes

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