As one year ends and another approaches, it’s a good time to reflect and look forwards. A year is a long time, with many experiences lived through. As an outcome-oriented psychotherapist and coach, much of my work supports clients in developing self-awareness and making changes. Here are some tips for reflecting and planning.
The first step is to reflect on the year past. It’s not always useful to think of things in terms of good and bad, often there is more insight when we reflect on each as the unique experience it was, and look for what the experience has brought us. You might ask yourself:
The challenge is to notice the patterns in what has happened. The story of your year can take you so far, but noticing the dynamics and themes that come up again and again can take you that bit deeper into self-knowledge, and enable you to begin to make changes based on what you see. It’s a bit like the events are the waves on the ocean, while it’s the ocean bed that shapes their form and intensity.
Having reflected on the year past, you might now build some momentum for the year ahead by reflecting on what you now want. Here are some prompt questions:
Be specific, state it in the positive, and dare to dream!
Knowing your why is important, you can use these motivations to keep going if things get tough.
This question is about responsibility, how can you live in a way that will make your outcomes more likely, how can you be congruent with what you want?
No-one is an island and reflecting on what help and support you need up front can help you get it in place.
Knowing what we value and being true to our values helps us to feel at peace, it gets our whole system aligned.
Here, the key thing is to notice what energises you, and to build that into your year.
Psychotherapy can be really helpful to go deeper with your reflections. It may be part of your plan for the coming year to understand old patterns and free yourself of them, or perhaps you want to find new ways of being that will improve your quality of life. Why not search the directory and see who feels like a good match to walk beside you for the next steps in your life?
You can also find support by contacting:
In an emergency, call: 999
NHS (England), call: 111
NHS Direct (Wales), call: 0845 46 47
The Samaritans 24-hour helpline, call: 116 123