7 reasons why partners cheat
August 24, 2018
By: Jenna Rachid and Alex Youngs
The Sun asked UKCP Psychotherapist Toby Igham to give his thoughts on why partners are unfaithful. The article outlines seven reasons why people cheat.
One of the reasons Igham outlined was ‘Peter Pan Syndrome,’ a term he uses to highlight people who struggle with the idea of growing up.
He said: ‘Sometimes people have a fear of growing older and maturing. Instead of settling into a committed and long-term relationship
They can look for the excitement of a new partner or a series of short-term affairs,’ he explained.
Igham also explored whether a partner was seeking to escape. He said: ‘A new reality which can impact on the relationship such as having kids or looking after an ill partner can lead someone to look for a new experience.
‘This allows them to escape from their everyday life and their relationship which may have become a shadow of what it once was.’
UCAS boss says universities should do more for student’s mental health.
Clare Marchant, the Chief Executive of UCAS, told The Independent, that universities have a ‘responsibility’ to support students moving into higher education. She also stated that she had noticed an increase in students and parents getting in contact about ‘exam stress’.
On A-level results day in 2016 UCAS were contacted 17,089 times by parents and students over the phone and on social media. In 2017 this increased to 19,709, an increase of 15%.
Alison Roy, from the Association of Child Psychotherapists (ACP), said: ‘Exam stress can be the straw that broke the camel’s back. I am seeing more and more young people suffering from low self-esteem and a lack of a sense of their own abilities.
‘I think that the fear of rejection and of not being accepted is therefore much higher for young people these days.’
LGBT+ people are increasingly turning to anonymous strangers on dating apps for mental health support, according to LGBT+ activist Thomas Ryalls.
In an opinion piece for Pink News, Ryalls, who has launched his own project ‘Finding Simon’ to document the stories of those struggling with their mental health, writes that some members of the LGBT+ community are using the dating app Grindr to seek help when they are struggling with their mental health.
Ryalls argues that the lack of prioritisation for mental health funding is driving the trend for LGBT+ people to seek help online.
He highlights a report from the King’s Fund which found that ‘funding for mental health trusts has increased by just 5.6%, compared to an increase of 16.8% for acute hospitals.’
This is in addition to a report by the London Assembly last year which found that LGBT+ people are considerably more likely to experience mental health issues than the population in general – ‘around 40% of LGBT+ people experience a mental health issue, compared to 25% of the wider population.’
Some have reported even higher figures. According to MIND, ’42 % of gay men, 70% of lesbians and 90% of BAME lesbians experience mental health problems at some point.’
Ryalls goes on to explain that the support through mobile applications like Grindr, as well as online platforms such as Reddit, has provided vital interventions for LGBT+ people experiencing mental health issues.
However, he argues this is not enough and, without specialist support, LGBT+ people will continue to experience mental health inequality, stigma and discrimination.
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