I am an Intergrative psychotheraputic counsellor and Family Constellations Facilitator. I have a particular interest in ancestral trauma and how that is passed on down the generations. This means that you could be carrying trauma that was experienced by grandparents or great-grandparents. I am also integrating Energy Psychotherapy methods into my practice, these link up the mind and body to release traumas and difficult experiences.
To flourish in the present and the future it is necessary to process and make peace with the past - both our personal past and ancestral past.
My approach combines integrative psychotherapy and family constellations which facilitates this process. So much of who we are was created in our 'formative years', creating our beliefs about:
Ourselves e.g. I’m not good enough
Others e.g. They don’t like me,
The world e.g. I don’t belong.
When your beliefs are uncovered and understood you can then choose to keep them or change them, using mind, body and emotions to make lasting change
Mind, Body & Emotions
We are made up of all three and all three need to be included in order to make long lasting changes. For example I like to use the body to find out more of what needs attending to.
Have you been in a situation where you felt unsafe when there was no logical reason to?
Have you tried to change your behaviour or thoughts through being rational and found it hasn’t worked?
Do you find yourself reacting disproportionately to situations and people?
Do you feel you should be happy because your life looks good on paper?
These are ways that show your mind, body and emotions have become out of balance and they need help, by getting rid of old ways of being that no longer serve you and by updating your emotional and behavioural responses to present day situations.
Our bodies often are trying to communicate with us to let us know that something is wrong, by paying attention to what it's saying we can gain a much greater understanding of what issues need addressing. If you listened to your body what would it be trying to tell you?
We are gaining more and more understanding on how trauma is passed down through DNA in our epigenetics. Family Constellations can reveal these and help you make peace or change what you have inherited. Family Constellations can be a great way of looking at issues that have persisted in your life despite other types of therapy or feelings that you have that don’t make sense in your own lived experience. For example a person always makes sure they have food with them wherever they go and no matter how long they are away from the house for 10 minutes or 3 hours and no matter how many food outlets are available. This is often the experience of children or grandchildren born from the holocaust survivors, as then the reality was they didn’t know when they would next eat. Or the person that feels that they might harm their baby despite never having harmed anyone, when the family history was explored their grandmother accidentally burned the house down from a candle and her baby died. The granddaughter is feeling the fear her grandmother felt but never processed and recovered from. Family constellation issues may show up in relationships, health problems or money issues to name but a few.
I use Family Constellations in 1-2-1 work or in a workshop setting
If you are serious about making changes and are ready to look at what is holding you back contact me
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Like all UKCP registered psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors I can work with a wide range of issues, but here are some areas in which I have a special interest or additional experience.