WORKING WITH INDIVIDUALS
I have been working as a counsellor, therapist and supervisor for over 25 years, and so my approach is informed by substantial experience and ongoing professional development. First and foremost I seek to develop a trusting relationship and to give you an experience of being deeply understood. In an initial call or meeting I will help you to be clear about what you are looking for, and I will recommend possible ways of working, whether with me or via a referral to a colleague. Clients are typically confronting such issues as loss, anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, addictions, abuse, eating disorders, stress management, anger management, obsessive behaviour, chronic illness and trauma. My first training was in psychoanalytic psychotherapy, which means that I will invite you to explore how past experiences have shaped how you are coping with current challenges, and I will support you to use such awareness to enable you to make different choices. I am also trained as a mindfulness teacher, and, if you choose, I will support you to use these techniques to steady your here-and-now awareness, and so be better able to observe how emotional experiences are expressed in your body. Just attending to somatic experiences in this way, and moving towards and away from what is tolerable, can bring substantial freedom and breakthrough, sometimes within just one session. At times my approach will also involve some educational input around the role of the brain, and some understanding of the science of how we can retrain the brain to help us not only survive, but thrive.
WORKING WITH COUPLES
Over the last 10 years I have worked increasingly with couples looking to address relationships challenges, and my approach is informed primarily by training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, and also in Imago Relationship Therapy. The challenge for any couple seeking relationship support is to establish a space where both people can hear and feel heard. When relationships become difficult, patterns of interaction have become stuck and unproductive, with each person typically resorting to some form of silence or violence. This is an entirely natural consequence of frustration and fear. By holding a safe and steady space, and by helping both you and your partner to see the deeper longing for connection beneath the defensive patterns, couples can join together in creating more productive interactions. If you are looking for couple therapy I strongly recommend Emotionally Focused Therapy because it has a well researched and higher evidence-base of success than any other couple therapy technique.
WORKING WITH LEADERS
I have also applied my psychotherapeutic experience to working with leaders in organisations in order to develop their awareness, authenticity and engagement of others. My book, Leadership Coaching, From Personal Insight to Organisational Performance is recommended reading on many coaching courses.