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Reflections of an ex-paedophile cured by NHS psychoanalytic psychotherapy

Paedophilia can be cured says Jack Dawson (pseudonym), but demonising paedophiles and rationing treatment greatly damages the fight against child sexual abuse

We need to question the notion paedophilia is incurable.

I was cured of my paedophilia by the NHS Portman Clinic. I have told the story of my cure several times over the past decade[i]. Briefly, my sexual orientation was wholly paedophiliac. I never offended either directly or indirectly but I was attracted to pre-adolescent boys of ‘choirboy age’.

At 21 I sought help from the Portman, and was treated there with psychoanalytic psychotherapy. After 3 years, I was wholly cured and have been heterosexual ever since. I am in now a committed relationship, with several step-grandchildren.

I recently collaborated with a woman who had been on the paedophile spectrum, though the child sexual abuse she suffered was much greater than mine. She successfully resisted the urge to abuse, found a therapist and rid herself of her paedophiliac urges. She now lives well and happily.

I have been silent on this issue for most of the 42 years since my cure. I am not alone in that silence. There is no cohort of cured and ethical paedophiles advocating for universal treatments for sufferers and an end to their demonization. Not only that, the published accounts of psychoanalytic work with paedophiles are few[ii]. Those accounts often refer to private in-depth psychoanalytic work (multiple sessions per week over long years) with offending paedophiles, and the NHS does not offer such services.

A window of opportunity for treatment

The Portman works with the assumption that the notion of cure is not usually applicable for contact offenders. However, the prospect of a cure for those who have not crossed into offending is acknowledged to be greater. New research by StopSO suggests the existence of a window of opportunity to treat many paedophiles before they act out their distress. It indicates that 51% (vi) of paedophiles recognise their orientation by the age of 16. Yet offending tends to begin around age 30. The fact that those treated at the Portman are mostly in their 30’s, 40’s and even 50’s, suggests that there is a gap in their service for those who recognise that they are paedophiles but have not collapsed into offending.

The implication of all this is that the notion of the incurability of paedophilia may be self-fulfilling. The Portman’s formal admission criteria have narrowed since my treatment and now it accepts only paedophiles who have acted on their sexual impulses. The treatment sessions are once a week, more rarely two or more, and the length of treatment would not stretch to that available in private practice.

It may be that these imposed constraints act to distort perceptions of a possible cure – treatment is rationed towards those for whom cure is most difficult.

Damaging the fight against child sexual abuse

Demonising paedophilia and failing to widely use the healing potentials of psychoanalysis greatly damages the fight against child sexual abuse.

Conflating the category of ‘child sexual abuser’ with ‘paedophile’ invests paedophilia with huge repugnance. What publicly funded in-depth therapeutic treatment there is for paedophiles is founded upon the need to prevent child sexual abuse. It is justified forensically, not medically or humanely. This must account for the dearth of healing therapeutic resources for paedophilia. This dearth leaves paedophiles in dangerous despair of any prospects of living lives of adult normality.

Without a cohort of healed and ethical paedophiles who can model an alternative future and provide hope for sufferers, the only identity available is that of the despised abuser. This leads paedophiles to despair, and despair is the parent of abuse.

We need to question whether the notion of a paedophile ‘voice’ is intrinsically sociopathic. Dr Sarah Goode’s research[v] points to the presence of a number of non-abusing paedophiles in on-line paedophile groups who challenge other participants’ notions that sex with children is acceptable. Recent films, such as ‘The Paedophile Next Door’, have given a voice to some ethical paedophiliac men.

My small attempts to advocate for paedophiles have several times been smeared as covert attempts to apologise for adult-child sex, and I have not been able to respond properly to such attacks because of my need for anonymity. This highlights the imperative that any advocacy cohort of ex-paedophiles and ethical paedophiles must have external allies who are willing to operate publicly without substituting their own voices for ours. I believe that StopSO recognises this need.

Without a ‘voice’ I fear paedophiles will not rise above the status of a despised ‘other’. If they remain in despairing isolation we lose a huge opportunity to break the cycle of child sexual abuse.


[i] For instance and

[ii] They include Mervin Glasser’s paper ‘Psychodynamic Aspects of Paedophilia’, pages 121-135 in ‘Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy’ (1988) Vol 3 No 2. Karnac Books have produced two multi-contributor books on paedophilia: ‘On Paedophilia’, edited by Cosimo Schinaia (2010) and ‘The Mind of the Paedophile, Psychoanalytic Perspectives’, edited by Charles W. Socarides and Loretta R. Loeb (2004).

[iii] From StopSO statistics page:  Retrieved 10th April 2017

[iv] See ‘Paedophiles in Society’, Palgrave Macmillan (2011) and ‘Understanding and Addressing Adult Sexual Attraction to Children’, Routledge (2011), both by Sarah D. Goode.


About the author

‘Jack Dawson’: I am a man of 65, cured by in depth psychoanalytic psychotherapy at the NHS Portman Clinic from 1972-’75. I was never an offender. I have a long-standing loving relationship, step-children and grandchildren. In the last 15 years I have written on this issue, using a pseudonym, with letters and articles, an interview on BBC Radio London, and a Guardian interview by Decca Aitkenhead: The shadow that refuses to disappear.

Back to: SPECIAL FEATURE: StopSo tackling sexual abuse in the 21st century

This article is part of a special feature section produced with the organisation StopSo, looking at the issues raised by working with both sex offenders and survivors. Views expressed are those of the author not UKCP.